Another vision of safety
From Barb Culver:
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My image of an emotionally safe person
When I meet this person he/she looks directly into my eyes and gives a firm handshake or hug , when appropriate.В She inquires about me and the important people and happenings in my life.В She follows up my answers with deeper questions or comments that validate what I have expressed. She remembers (or asks to be reminded of) things I have talked about in the past.В When appropriate, she may relate what I have expressed to her own experiences.
She/he has a positive attitude toward life.В Her honesty is unquestionable.
When encouraged, she is open and honest about her own feelings and experiences. She doesn’t gossip about other people.В What she shares about her life and feelings is appropriate for the circumstances and people to whom she is sharing.
I Have reason to believe that this person will not repeat things I have shared in confidence.
My “safe” person has a quiet calmness and understands that feelings expressed at one time may be very different from what a person expresses on another occasion.В She is accepting and forgiving of people’s minor character flaws and idiosyncracies.
She/he is discriminate about who she shares her life and time with in an intimate way.
This person is a good steward of his own physical, emotional, spiritual and intellectual health.В His life reflects his ideals.В This person is emotionally and physically available.
I would hope to be this person some day.
August 24, 2009
Tags: commitment, fire element, safety Posted in: 2009 Classes
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